As the kids say, meet someone that you vibe with. There's usually a video of someone doing something a little strange and someone else matching them for high style points. The older wisdom is that opposites attract. Both of these things are bullshit.
In overthinking this, what you want is harmonics. You want someone - whatever kind of relationship this is - to be complementary to whatever music you're making. You want someone that's not the same as you, but not so totally different that you can't make a good sound.
I have a friend that's sort of perfect for this example. I'm weird, they're also weird, but in a different way. They've got the mental energy of an excited mayfly, and I have the mental energy of a coked-up emo kid. They're sneaky smart, I'm sneaky smart, but in wildly different subjects. I'm messy, they definitely aren't. We enjoy different things, and some of the same things. They want some things that I don't, and I want some things that (I presume) that they don't. I just had a three-hour phone conversation with them, and we're less than ten miles away from each other. If this friend were at all interested in it, I could easily let myself fall head over heels in love with them and jump their bones, but as it is, I love them dearly regardless, boneless, because we are complementary. Their frequency isn't dissonant, isn't trying to cancel mine out, and is, in fact, quite a good harmonic. It's a great friendship because it's harmonic.
Bear with me, this over-extended metaphor is going to keep going. I know it's bad. I do not care.
You put two subwoofers in a room, and you hook them into the same input. You point them at each other, and then you sit in the middle. You want that bass. What you expect to happen is deep, thumpy wuzzies licking at the inside of your eyeballs. What actually happens, more often than not, is uneven, patchy, or even non-existent bass. Some of the frequencies might be amplified (constructive interference), but some might cancel itself out (destructive interference). It's the physics of sound waves. You put two similar people in a room and point them at each other and they're going to get along like a house on fire at first, but eventually, they're going to run out of shit to talk about. You want a good woofer, yes, but you also want higher frequencies so you can hear the damn music and enjoy it. Put those two same people in a room, point them at different places, and add in some lovely highs, and suddenly you're listening to the good shit again.
I have another friend that I make different music with. We met several years ago, and learned over time that we're quite similar in a lot of respects. We harmonize, but there's the occasional dissonance, and so what we end up with is a sort of mental jazz. All right for some, and was alright enough at one point to lead to an attempt at a romantic relationship, but alas, we wanted too many different things and I called that part of our relationship off. That didn't stop the music, it just prevented us from becoming "free jazz." Music's there, but god help you if you try to find a coherent modal structure.
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